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How a child makes a mistake criticized effect

When a child makes a mistake when, due to criticism, can make them aware of their mistakes, to produce guilt, remorse, so as to learn from mistakes, are not repeated. But if criticism properly, may also cause children's resentment and resistance, and does not achieve the desired aim of education.
So, parents how critical education means to achieve the good result?
1, criticized the practical, fair and reasonable children bad behavior, parents have criticized the children should be practical and realistic, fair and reasonable, allowed stated arguments, don't criticize children prior to the failed to find out the truth. Criticism should be clearly justified and told them he had done something wrong, why criticize him, his errors what harm and the severity of the error, and so on. Criticisms active with affection, with reason, kids are more likely to accept it.
2, the criticism in time to criticize the child in time, the criticism immediately criticized, don't say "your father (mother) come back, let him teach you" sort of opportunity. If once in a while and then criticism will make kids think their parents are looking for an excuse him, not only does not accept criticism, may also make the child psychology. Some parents prefer to settle scores, and criticized child, like scolded children past mistakes, or made irrelevant things to do with this criticism, it makes kids think you have been gathering his mistakes, annoying.
3, critical to select appropriate locations every child has his pride, also want others to respect and fear in front of others. If always a straight face in front of people shouting, the result will have the opposite effect. How to make a child happy to accept criticism? best choice without the presence of others, individually, and criticism of the smaller children more likely to listen.
4, critics do not harm the child's self-esteem as a child after having faults, parents criticize something wrong, criticism is the child's bad behavior, do not harm the child's self-esteem, so when parents criticize their child care must be taken in a positive civilization language better than negative, rude language effect. After the kids made a mistake, feel very ashamed, guilty, they need care, encouragement and help. Parents have criticized the expression serious, tone can be firmly, but do not say: "you're so stupid!" and "someone, you don't. "," Good for nothing, you can sweep the streets! " That kind of thing, these words will only make the children more pessimistic, inferiority, for them to correct the error.
5, criticized the heavy correct some parents criticize children, did not indicate the correct direction and specific methods, simply blamed the children it's not right, that's not true, the child after hearing most of the day, do not know how to do, the criticism is useless.
The focus of criticism should not focus on the "wrong", but should lead to remedy the wrongdoing. For example, child clashed with classmates, if wrong in their children, parents, in addition to severe criticism, and let them take the initiative to apologize, compensate for the deleterious effects on each other. In short, parents must send correct methodological note and say, "what to do" than to say "don't do anything".
6, don't criticize your child some parents with their own joy, anger, criticize, the same behavior is sometimes criticized, sometimes with him. This will make kids think that if the parents feel good, doing something wrong doesn't matter if parents feel bad and likely to do anything well in the training. Parents doing this tends to make the child confused, or that he shall act parents face. Criticism not only what results, but will blur the child's concept of right and wrong.
7, for children, to let your child discover errors, errors were found, to be truly "see" problems. For example, when the children bad behavior, parents are quick to point out what is wrong, but patient inspires kids: "do this, is that right?", "How do you think what you do is you?" so children calm down and reflect on the, when he learned that went wrong, he would be willing to admit their mistakes and will be determined to correct.
Sometimes not positive that criticism, but to give them encouragement and reminders. In the criticism lies in encouraging and urging, in encouraging the full trust and confidence in, make children aware of their mistakes without losing self-esteem, criticism in order to have better results.

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